Wednesday, 5 February 2014

How to Move On When You’re Hurt and You’re Waiting for Closure | Awesome Hippie Stuff Blog

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let it go, I was also going to have to let go of my desire for him to admit he was a mega jerk. We want to feel in the right. We want it to be recognized that we were done wrong. If possible, we want an admission of guilt. However, in looking for this type of closure, we are often giving away our power. We’re saying, “I cannot move past this experience until…” What we actually desire is an internal, emotional shift. We want to feel better! We already know we can’t expect the outside world to take care of our feelings. Let’s apply that knowledge to resolution as well. Here’s how I got over the thieving boyfriend situation, and it’s a formula I continue to remind myself of whenever I begin to feel like I can’t move past an experience until satisfaction is mine. Acknowledge that something crappy happened. Yes, it totally sucks when a formerly good friend stops returning our calls and texts. And, it can be life-altering when we are let go from a job, despite receiving positive feedback on our performance review. It’s important not to pretend. Sometimes we rush past the feelings that are present in an attempt to appear uncaring (unhurt, really), or like we have it handled. Getting back on the horse is great and all, but let’s first acknowledge that it hurt when we were knocked off! Having feelings doesn’t make us less able to handle tough stuff, or to come up with great solutions. It just means we’re human. Identify all the feelings you do have. If the situation is minor, it may be one or two feelings. For more intense events, it can take a while to pinpoint all of them. This is essential, because identification and recognition go hand-in-hand. In doing this, we’re accepting that we are feeling these emotions. This sort of self-acknowledgment is crucial. By the way, we’re the only ones who get to decide what is major, or minor, for us. We’re all unique, and we’ve all had different experiences that have helped mold who we are. Something that is minor for one may be major for another, and vice versa. That’s okay. The point is not to compare the experience we are having to how others would react; it’s to self-process and move forward. Release the need for outside mediation of any sort. This is not about forgiveness. It’s not about taking the high road, either. Those options both involve the other person. This is about us, and what we want. It is simply about asserting that we can move forward regardless of what is happening (or what doesn’t happen) in the outside world. We can use affirmations, or meditation, or whatever tools work for us for energy release. When we are looking for resolution from the outside world, we are also seeking acknowledgement. Learning to Shuberth Maria Moraca Maria Moraca is a conscious integrated channeler. She and Zurac (her “entity dude”) work in tandem; Maria encourages empowerment and Zurac offers insight and clarification to life path questions. Her website and blog are at Web | How to Move On When You’re Hurt and You’re Waiting for Closure appeared first on Read more here … How to Move On When You’re Hurt and You’re Waiting for Closure How to Move On When You’re Hurt and You’re Waiting for Closure from my awesome #hippie stuff #blog



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